The Connection

So over the past four months I’ve been pulled away from the interwebz by an amazing girl named Ashley. I’ve learned more in these past four months then I have in probably the past four years of my life. Nearly six weeks ago Ashley, a girl for which I’ve been interested in since I was six, finally accepted one of my numerous offers of companionship. We love each other, and that’s what matters.

To say the least, in the past four months I’ve had a shit load of advice thrown at me from this person, that person, family members, friends, and even the occasional random guy at the coffee shop. I’ve collected it all in my rather massive brain, and now I’m going to try and sift through it all and spew upon you what I think.

First and foremost, WOMEN ARE NOT COMPLICATED. I hate men that say this. You just need to take some time to understand how much different there life is than yours. The biggest difference being that every 28 days they have an uncontrollable thing that happens to them. All women are different, but this is one thing guys just can’t understand because there’s just really no real way to comprehend it. If you can deal with a women’s side affects from her menstrual cycle, better yet, talk to your girlfriend about it , you’re on the right track.

Second, you both had a life before each other. Continue to live that life, or at least as much of it as you can. It’s important to not always make her the center of your attention. She’s important, but a lot of things are important. Put her high on your list, but not directly on top, unless you’re married or engaged. The same goes for women too.

Third, surprises are GOOD!! surprise your significant other when ever you feel it’s necessary. Just don’t over do it. You may end up scaring them off or end up getting them used to it, which is never good.

Fourth, and final, and foremost, Make sure your emotions jive. When she’s sad, get sad. When she’s mad at you, get mad at her. Being “chill” all the time just does not work. When you get mad together, you can calm each other down. Think of this as the ultimate way to build a stronger relationship. If you can move through life together, then you’re doing great. If the instant she gets mad at you, you think of breaking up, then it’s time to move on. If you truely love that someone you’re with, then you can understand, and feel their anger, sorrow, happiness, etc.

Well I hope you all enjoyed this post.

Look for a few more like this in the future.

Thanks for reading,
Josh.

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